Manners, where have they gone?

I am often saddened at the sight of people too busy to hold a door open for someone. Whether that person is older, a lady, someone with their hands full…

I remember in First grade (I think) we were taught, a few basic manners, in class, with a very specific purpose. Hold doors, gentlemen pull out chairs and slide them in as you sit, say thank you and your welcome.

I commented on Facebook about an incident that happened to me as I was on my way to work. I had stopped at a Subway on my way to work. After I got my sandwich and drink, I started out the door. As I opened the door, an older gentleman stepped up on the curb, I held the door for him. As he stepped to the door he said thank you, and I responded with “you’re welcome”. He then said that he thought those days were gone. My response was “No, sir not here. Have a good day”.

His comment about those days being gone, made me a little sad, and made me think that it took maybe 30 extra seconds to hold the door and have that short conversation. How sad that more people don’t take the time to do something nice for someone.

Have we forgotten our manners in the hustle and bustle of the day? Are we stuck in our cell phones and tablets, too busy to look up to see that we have lost sight of our manners?

I looked up manners on Wikipedia (I know…not a credible research source). Manners are standards of conduct that show that a person is proper, caring, non-grouchy, polite, and refined. This definition when put in the negative can be said to describe a good portion of the world today.

Everyone always seems to be in a hurry, too busy to stop and make someone smile, by doing something that seems to be lost. The unexpected comment, meant a lot to me, but more than that the smile and thank you made my day.

Take the time over the next few days to do something unexpected. Small gestures often mean the most. You might just be surprised at the results. There’s a commercial for an insurance company, Liberty Mutual. It talks about doing the right thing, and shows how it can have an effect on people that you don’t see. Check out the commercial on YouTube.

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